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I opened the New York Times app this morning to see, As Kids, They Thought They Were Trans. They No Longer Do. Cue complicated somatic...

calcates
Feb 2, 20244 min read
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Motels, T-shirts and Evil
The odometer blinks 1221 miles as I turn off the engine. Four a.m. in Fort Collins is far behind us and Arlington is a long way away. We...

calcates
Jul 12, 20236 min read
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Indoctrination
As the attack on transgender rights and gender-affirming healthcare grows in our country, I am feeling a particular sense of huntedness....

calcates
Dec 5, 20223 min read
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An Open Invitation to Every Human..
who thinks "there is a time and a place to talk about social justice and inequality" It’s interesting how here and now is never that...

calcates
Sep 27, 20223 min read
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Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...

calcates
Apr 23, 20224 min read
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What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...

calcates
Oct 15, 20213 min read
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