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I opened the New York Times app this morning to see, As Kids, They Thought They Were Trans. They No Longer Do. Cue complicated somatic...
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Feb 2, 20244 min read
Disparity is Death*
*(This piece was originally published as a Healwell blog on August 3, 2023.) None of us know the names of the Black women with breast...
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Aug 4, 20234 min read
Motels, T-shirts and Evil
The odometer blinks 1221 miles as I turn off the engine. Four a.m. in Fort Collins is far behind us and Arlington is a long way away. We...
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Jul 12, 20236 min read
Don't Be A Meme
In Embrace Fearlessly the Burning World, Barry Lopez, lifelong humanitarian, naturist, author, and lover of the earth and all of its...
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Jun 19, 20235 min read
An Open Invitation to Every Human..
who thinks "there is a time and a place to talk about social justice and inequality" It’s interesting how here and now is never that...
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Sep 27, 20223 min read
Shooting in the Dark
“Why does this keep happening?”, we ask in heartbroken disbelief. It keeps happening because it’s an option. The ubiquity of guns in this...
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May 25, 20224 min read
Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
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Apr 23, 20224 min read
Harmless
I’m going to tell you a story. It’s still happening. To me. Inside me. This story is not about you in any specific sense. That said, my...
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Dec 11, 20214 min read
Bad Advice
I have given a lot of bad advice. I never meant to do it. It just happened. I was trying to help. I was trying to stop the pain. Aren’t...
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Sep 10, 20214 min read
Skunk
“I always enjoy Cal’s presentations, but I thought it was deeply inappropriate to throw Critical Race Theory into the middle of a...
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Sep 6, 20213 min read
Bound Up (explicit)
We are nothing without each other and yet, we treat each other like we’re nothing. We have got to do so much better. Last night, my...
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May 6, 20213 min read
Look kids! Big Ben!
Martin Luther King Day will be observed in our nation for the 26th time this year. Ronald Reagan signed the bill in 1983 and the first...
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Jan 17, 20215 min read
Is that Folgers?
“Gah! That guy just spilled my coffee!” Actually, “that guy” just spilled whatever was in your cup. Could have been water. Could have...
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Jan 15, 20213 min read
The Chips
We had an election. The chips fell, as they say. One guy didn’t win. That’s how elections go. There’s a person who wins and a person who...
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Jan 7, 20213 min read
Resolve
I live in Arlington, Virginia “Arlington will be a diverse and inclusive world-class urban community with secure, attractive residential...
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Dec 31, 20203 min read
Mind the Gap
Remember that scene in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where he comes barreling down the stone passageway into what looks like a...
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Dec 21, 20205 min read
When the Boob is on the Other Foot
On Monday morning, I went to a consult with a surgeon to see about having what is often called in the trans community "top surgery." For...
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Dec 15, 20207 min read
The Shadow Knows
I have been hanging out at the bedside of dying people for about 15 years now. Every time I tell someone who doesn’t also do that work...
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Dec 8, 20207 min read
Trigger Happy
“Ugh. That thing she said? It totally triggered me.” How many times have you heard this or something like it in the last handful of...
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Dec 2, 20205 min read
Do I Look Small in This?
I’ve been reading The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh. Oh, man. Every time I pick it up, I make sure I’m...
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Nov 16, 20203 min read
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