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An Open Invitation to Every Human..
who thinks "there is a time and a place to talk about social justice and inequality" It’s interesting how here and now is never that...
It's Getting Real In Here.
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- Apr 23
- 4 min
Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
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- Jan 20
- 2 min
Moments: Exhibit A
A morning like so many others. Uneventful. Lunch-making and listening. The stagnant grey of mid-January in northern Virginia calling...
calcates
- Dec 24, 2021
- 1 min
Replenish
Love and merriment to you, friends. I hope you'll make time to be overcome, if only momentarily, by blessed gratitude for whatever it is...
calcates
- Dec 18, 2021
- 5 min
Don't Let the Santas Keep Us Down
I love joy. Love. It. Surprise? Bring it! Magic? Yes, please. Perhaps what I love most about these experiences is that they are available...
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- Oct 15, 2021
- 3 min
What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...
calcates
- Sep 10, 2021
- 4 min
Bad Advice
I have given a lot of bad advice. I never meant to do it. It just happened. I was trying to help. I was trying to stop the pain. Aren’t...
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- Sep 6, 2021
- 3 min
Skunk
“I always enjoy Cal’s presentations, but I thought it was deeply inappropriate to throw Critical Race Theory into the middle of a...
calcates
- Aug 31, 2021
- 3 min
Gender Crazy
Since spreading the word about my top surgery in January of this year, I have heard from friends both close and distant asking if I would...
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- Aug 7, 2021
- 3 min
The Thin Pink Line
I think a lot about what it means to a woman. Female is easy to tag. It’s biology. It’s anatomy. With some notable and important...
calcates
- May 6, 2021
- 3 min
Bound Up (explicit)
We are nothing without each other and yet, we treat each other like we’re nothing. We have got to do so much better. Last night, my...
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- May 1, 2021
- 4 min
Cocoon: The Return (to myself)
“Hang on to this nasty ol’ lifeless skin for me, will ya?” said no snake ever. Here I sit. Just about 3 months into boob-free livin’....
calcates
- Jan 25, 2021
- 4 min
Dear Body
Dear Body, As your only and most faithful tenant these many years, I must say, you’re the bomb. Lest you think me a common mid-Atlantic...
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- Jan 18, 2021
- 5 min
Look kids! Big Ben!
Martin Luther King Day will be observed in our nation for the 26th time this year. Ronald Reagan signed the bill in 1983 and the first...
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- Jan 15, 2021
- 3 min
Is that Folgers?
“Gah! That guy just spilled my coffee!” Actually, “that guy” just spilled whatever was in your cup. Could have been water. Could have...
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- Jan 7, 2021
- 3 min
The Chips
We had an election. The chips fell, as they say. One guy didn’t win. That’s how elections go. There’s a person who wins and a person who...
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- Dec 21, 2020
- 5 min
Mind the Gap
Remember that scene in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where he comes barreling down the stone passageway into what looks like a...
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- Dec 15, 2020
- 7 min
When the Boob is on the Other Foot
On Monday morning, I went to a consult with a surgeon to see about having what is often called in the trans community "top surgery." For...