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I opened the New York Times app this morning to see, As Kids, They Thought They Were Trans. They No Longer Do. Cue complicated somatic...
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Feb 2, 20244 min read
Disparity is Death*
*(This piece was originally published as a Healwell blog on August 3, 2023.) None of us know the names of the Black women with breast...
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Aug 4, 20234 min read
Don't Be A Meme
In Embrace Fearlessly the Burning World, Barry Lopez, lifelong humanitarian, naturist, author, and lover of the earth and all of its...
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Jun 19, 20235 min read
Indoctrination
As the attack on transgender rights and gender-affirming healthcare grows in our country, I am feeling a particular sense of huntedness....
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Dec 5, 20223 min read
An Open Invitation to Every Human..
who thinks "there is a time and a place to talk about social justice and inequality" It’s interesting how here and now is never that...
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Sep 27, 20223 min read
Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
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Apr 23, 20224 min read
Moments: Exhibit A
A morning like so many others. Uneventful. Lunch-making and listening. The stagnant grey of mid-January in northern Virginia calling...
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Jan 20, 20222 min read
Replenish
Love and merriment to you, friends. I hope you'll make time to be overcome, if only momentarily, by blessed gratitude for whatever it is...
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Dec 24, 20211 min read
Don't Let the Santas Keep Us Down
I love joy. Love. It. Surprise? Bring it! Magic? Yes, please. Perhaps what I love most about these experiences is that they are available...
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Dec 18, 20215 min read
Harmless
I’m going to tell you a story. It’s still happening. To me. Inside me. This story is not about you in any specific sense. That said, my...
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Dec 11, 20214 min read
What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...
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Oct 15, 20213 min read
Bad Advice
I have given a lot of bad advice. I never meant to do it. It just happened. I was trying to help. I was trying to stop the pain. Aren’t...
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Sep 10, 20214 min read
Skunk
“I always enjoy Cal’s presentations, but I thought it was deeply inappropriate to throw Critical Race Theory into the middle of a...
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Sep 6, 20213 min read
Gender Crazy
Since spreading the word about my top surgery in January of this year, I have heard from friends both close and distant asking if I would...
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Aug 31, 20213 min read
The Thin Pink Line
I think a lot about what it means to a woman. Female is easy to tag. It’s biology. It’s anatomy. With some notable and important...
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Aug 7, 20213 min read
Bound Up (explicit)
We are nothing without each other and yet, we treat each other like we’re nothing. We have got to do so much better. Last night, my...
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May 6, 20213 min read
Cocoon: The Return (to myself)
“Hang on to this nasty ol’ lifeless skin for me, will ya?” said no snake ever. Here I sit. Just about 3 months into boob-free livin’....
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May 1, 20214 min read
Dear Body
Dear Body, As your only and most faithful tenant these many years, I must say, you’re the bomb. Lest you think me a common mid-Atlantic...
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Jan 25, 20214 min read
Look kids! Big Ben!
Martin Luther King Day will be observed in our nation for the 26th time this year. Ronald Reagan signed the bill in 1983 and the first...
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Jan 18, 20215 min read
Is that Folgers?
“Gah! That guy just spilled my coffee!” Actually, “that guy” just spilled whatever was in your cup. Could have been water. Could have...
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Jan 15, 20213 min read
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