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An Open Invitation to Every Human..
who thinks "there is a time and a place to talk about social justice and inequality" It’s interesting how here and now is never that...
It's Getting Real In Here.
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- Apr 23
- 4 min
Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
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- Jan 20
- 2 min
Moments: Exhibit A
A morning like so many others. Uneventful. Lunch-making and listening. The stagnant grey of mid-January in northern Virginia calling...
calcates
- Dec 24, 2021
- 1 min
Replenish
Love and merriment to you, friends. I hope you'll make time to be overcome, if only momentarily, by blessed gratitude for whatever it is...
calcates
- Oct 15, 2021
- 3 min
What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...
calcates
- Sep 10, 2021
- 4 min
Bad Advice
I have given a lot of bad advice. I never meant to do it. It just happened. I was trying to help. I was trying to stop the pain. Aren’t...
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- Sep 6, 2021
- 3 min
Skunk
“I always enjoy Cal’s presentations, but I thought it was deeply inappropriate to throw Critical Race Theory into the middle of a...
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- May 6, 2021
- 3 min
Bound Up (explicit)
We are nothing without each other and yet, we treat each other like we’re nothing. We have got to do so much better. Last night, my...
calcates
- Jan 25, 2021
- 4 min
Dear Body
Dear Body, As your only and most faithful tenant these many years, I must say, you’re the bomb. Lest you think me a common mid-Atlantic...
calcates
- Jan 15, 2021
- 3 min
Is that Folgers?
“Gah! That guy just spilled my coffee!” Actually, “that guy” just spilled whatever was in your cup. Could have been water. Could have...
calcates
- Dec 2, 2020
- 5 min
Trigger Happy
“Ugh. That thing she said? It totally triggered me.” How many times have you heard this or something like it in the last handful of...
calcates
- Nov 16, 2020
- 3 min
Do I Look Small in This?
I’ve been reading The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh. Oh, man. Every time I pick it up, I make sure I’m...
calcates
- Nov 4, 2020
- 2 min
Alive
Humans are afraid of death. Don’t fight me on this. It’s a thing. It’s well-documented. There are those of us who have worked to make...
calcates
- Oct 26, 2020
- 4 min
Gimme That Ol’ Time Repression
"Pull your shirt down!" came an adult female voice from off-field. I was playing football with the boys again. It was summer. It was hot....
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- Oct 13, 2020
- 3 min
This Ain't Twilight
“Hey, Bear. What’s up?” I move across my son’s bedroom toward his slumped little 10-year-old self behind the end of his bed. A sad scene,...
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- Oct 5, 2020
- 3 min
Between Stimulus and Response
Viktor Frankl spent three years imprisoned in concentration camps during World War II. His wife, his father, his mother and brother were...
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- Aug 25, 2020
- 2 min
Staying Out of the Way
COVID invited me to lead a weekly book group about the book "Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life...