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I opened the New York Times app this morning to see, As Kids, They Thought They Were Trans. They No Longer Do. Cue complicated somatic...
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Feb 2, 20244 min read
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Don't Be A Meme
In Embrace Fearlessly the Burning World, Barry Lopez, lifelong humanitarian, naturist, author, and lover of the earth and all of its...
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Jun 19, 20235 min read
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Shooting in the Dark
“Why does this keep happening?”, we ask in heartbroken disbelief. It keeps happening because it’s an option. The ubiquity of guns in this...
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May 25, 20224 min read
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Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
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Apr 23, 20224 min read
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Moments: Exhibit A
A morning like so many others. Uneventful. Lunch-making and listening. The stagnant grey of mid-January in northern Virginia calling...
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Jan 20, 20222 min read
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Replenish
Love and merriment to you, friends. I hope you'll make time to be overcome, if only momentarily, by blessed gratitude for whatever it is...
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Dec 24, 20211 min read
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Don't Let the Santas Keep Us Down
I love joy. Love. It. Surprise? Bring it! Magic? Yes, please. Perhaps what I love most about these experiences is that they are available...
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Dec 18, 20215 min read
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Harmless
I’m going to tell you a story. It’s still happening. To me. Inside me. This story is not about you in any specific sense. That said, my...
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Dec 11, 20214 min read
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Gender Crazy
Since spreading the word about my top surgery in January of this year, I have heard from friends both close and distant asking if I would...
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Aug 31, 20213 min read
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The Thin Pink Line
I think a lot about what it means to a woman. Female is easy to tag. It’s biology. It’s anatomy. With some notable and important...
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Aug 7, 20213 min read
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Bound Up (explicit)
We are nothing without each other and yet, we treat each other like we’re nothing. We have got to do so much better. Last night, my...
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May 6, 20213 min read
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Dear Body
Dear Body, As your only and most faithful tenant these many years, I must say, you’re the bomb. Lest you think me a common mid-Atlantic...
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Jan 25, 20214 min read
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Is that Folgers?
“Gah! That guy just spilled my coffee!” Actually, “that guy” just spilled whatever was in your cup. Could have been water. Could have...
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Jan 15, 20213 min read
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Resolve
I live in Arlington, Virginia “Arlington will be a diverse and inclusive world-class urban community with secure, attractive residential...
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Dec 31, 20203 min read
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Mind the Gap
Remember that scene in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where he comes barreling down the stone passageway into what looks like a...
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Dec 21, 20205 min read
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When the Boob is on the Other Foot
On Monday morning, I went to a consult with a surgeon to see about having what is often called in the trans community "top surgery." For...
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Dec 15, 20207 min read
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The Shadow Knows
I have been hanging out at the bedside of dying people for about 15 years now. Every time I tell someone who doesn’t also do that work...
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Dec 8, 20207 min read
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Trigger Happy
“Ugh. That thing she said? It totally triggered me.” How many times have you heard this or something like it in the last handful of...
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Dec 2, 20205 min read
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Do I Look Small in This?
I’ve been reading The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh. Oh, man. Every time I pick it up, I make sure I’m...
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Nov 16, 20203 min read
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Alive
Humans are afraid of death. Don’t fight me on this. It’s a thing. It’s well-documented. There are those of us who have worked to make...
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Nov 4, 20202 min read
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