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Indoctrination
As the attack on transgender rights and gender-affirming healthcare grows in our country, I am feeling a particular sense of huntedness....
calcates
Dec 5, 20223 min read
What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...
calcates
Oct 15, 20213 min read
The Thin Pink Line
I think a lot about what it means to be a woman. thinner every day Female is easy to tag. It’s biology. It’s anatomy. With some notable and important exceptions, a majority of people who check the “F” box in answer to the question about their sex are irrefutably so. Woman though is something very different and not just different from female. Women are not a monolith. Not bitches. Not strong. Not weak. Not smart. Not ditzy or emotional or bad at math. Maybe you already know th
calcates
Aug 7, 20213 min read
When the Boob is on the Other Foot
On Monday morning, I went to a consult with a surgeon to see about having what is often called in the trans community "top surgery." For...
calcates
Dec 15, 20207 min read
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