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Why I Get Up
I like to ask real questions. When I meet a person and they say, “My husband this...” or “My wife that…” I regularly ask, “Do you like...
calcates
Apr 23, 20224 min read
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What We Say When We (Struggle to) Say They
The thing about “they” as a pronoun is that it is far from neutral, particularly when heard and used, or -- not heard or used -- by...
calcates
Oct 15, 20213 min read
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Gender Crazy
Since spreading the word about my top surgery in January of this year, I have heard from friends both close and distant asking if I would...
calcates
Aug 31, 20213 min read
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The Thin Pink Line
I think a lot about what it means to a woman. Female is easy to tag. It’s biology. It’s anatomy. With some notable and important...
calcates
Aug 7, 20213 min read
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Cocoon: The Return (to myself)
“Hang on to this nasty ol’ lifeless skin for me, will ya?” said no snake ever. Here I sit. Just about 3 months into boob-free livin’....
calcates
May 1, 20214 min read
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